So Long My Friends - Why I’m Saying Goodbye To Facebook And Why That’s Really No Big Deal

There was a time when I truly loved Facebook. I once thought about it as this huge global network where I could socialize with creative, inspiring people around the world.…
So Long My Friends

Why I’m Saying Goodbye To Facebook And Why That’s Really No Big Deal

There was a time when I truly loved Facebook. I once thought about it as this huge global network where I could socialize with creative, inspiring people around the world. I felt more international just by signing up. This must be the gateway to a new universe where everything great happens. That’s what I thought at least. And it was awesome. For the first couple of years.

I got connected with bloggers from all the over the place, with models and artists and musicians. And not only did they share their work and their songs and their photos but also their feelings, their true feelings. Because it still was this kind of intimate network where only a few people were in those circles. No one was judging you, we were just friends.

Fast forwarding to 2016. Most of my contacts started to delete their first posts and images and videos a few years back when they realized that Facebook became their portfolio, their business network, their potential client portal. It wasn’t about true feelings or sad thoughts or real decisions anymore. The new Facebook combined great success, perfect portraits, and flawless lives.

And, much worse, they started to become smart life changers. Instead of personal status updates, my news feed got flooded with precocious articles about politics, ethics and health. Posts about how refugees can boost economies. Posts about how animals are suffering in East-European countries. Posts about why detoxification with vegetables, fruits and juices is the next big thing.

The problem was not that these people were wrong. Quite the opposite. The problem was that these people were totally right. I started to delete friends who were posting racist, sexist or just stupid stuff a long time ago, along with those who were inviting me to their dumb Farmville games. All the people who were still in my friend list after that must be the best people in the world, right?

My current news feed is full of people trying to convince me that refugees can boost economies, animals are suffering in East-European countries and detoxification with vegetables, fruits and juices is the next big thing. Okay, cool, yeah, you’re right. I like these posts because I agree on that and I support what you’re saying. You’re a good person!

On the next day, my news feed is full of people trying to convince me that refugees can boost economies, animals are suffering in East-European countries and detoxification with vegetables, fruits and juices is the next big thing. Okay… cool… yeah… you’re… right. Okay, I like these posts. Because… I agree on that. And I support what you’re saying. You’re a good person! I guess…

On the next day, my news feed is full of people trying to convince me that refugees can boost economies, animals are suffering in East-European countries and detoxification with vegetables, fruits and juices is the next big thing. Wow, I didn’t know that… Okay, yeah, I did. But you’re still right. And I still like these posts. Because I still agree on them. And I support what you’re saying. Still.

On the next day, my news feed is full of people trying to convince me that refugees can boost economies, animals are suffering in East-European countries and detoxification with vegetables, fruits and juices is the next big thing. I begin to scroll by these things. I liked enough of them. They know that I have the same opinion, right? They won’t get mad if I decide to not like these posts because I liked all the other posts, right? They know I share their views and they are my friends and we are good people, right? Right.

On the next day, my news feed is full of people trying to convince me that refugees can boost economies, animals are suffering in East-European countries and detoxification with vegetables, fruits and juices is the next big thing. Okay, fuck you, stop posting that shit, I know it, you know it, who the fuck are you trying to convince here, your friend list is full of people who think like you!

On the next day, my news feed is full of people trying to convince me that refugees can boost economies, animals are suffering in East-European countries and detoxification with vegetables, fruits and juices is the next big thing. I not only want to delete you as friends, but I’m starting to hate you, I want to kill you and your family and your dog and everyone you’ve ever met!

On the next day, my news feed is full of people trying to convince me that refugees can boost economies, animals are suffering in East-European countries and detoxification with vegetables, fruits and juices is the next big thing. Okay, goodbye everyone, see you in hell, why do you destroy everything I love, why, why, who are you people, rot in hell you fucking fucks, ahhh!

It’s like sitting next to a guy in a bar and he’s talking to you about world-shaking topics and you agree on every single thing he’s saying. But instead of smiling and taking a sip out of his bottle he just repeats himself. And you agree. And he repeats himself. And you agree. And he repeats himself. And you agree. And he repeats himself. And you kill him with a bottle. And he repeats himself.

There was a time when I truly loved Facebook. But the real thoughts and emotions and, yes, people are gone. Today’s Facebook consists of smartasses, self-promoters and people who think they’re better persons just because they share ten clever newspaper articles in a row. Every hour. Every day. For the rest of their lives. I don’t have time for this anymore. There are enough real channels for news out there, I don’t need that in a personal social network which was once meant to connect people.

I know many people who deleted their Facebook account and many of them made a big deal out of that. And they wrote about it. Like Cody Musser. “It’s no accident when we plop onto the couch and start scrolling Facebook. Then… close the tab, get distracted and open… Facebook,” he says. “I think assuming that Facebook provides us a good feeling is at the very least similar to assuming you’re going to feel good eating one bite of a doughnut and then looking at the rest intently for the next six hours. Always there. Always available. You’ll probably want some more doughnut. Then… because you ate the whole doughnut an hour later? You’ll feel like shit.”

Or Jessica Ferris. “Facebook doesn’t want to strengthen your relationship with loved ones,” she says. “It wants to strengthen your relationship with Facebook. I’m reminded here of viruses, which can only replicate inside the living cells of other organisms. Facebook benefits when this relationship remains invisible. When we make the mistake that I made—when we forget that Facebook is using our friendships as hosts, and not the other way around—our forgetting is very convenient for Facebook.”

Or Jacob Miller. “Being on Facebook made me feel like I always had to say something about everything,” he explains. “It was a like a digital soapbox to place your opinion even when it wasn’t necessary. Removing myself from that type of attitude has taught me to listen more and think a lot more before I just blab my big mouth. Being caught up in what everyone else is doing only holds you back from living your own life. By removing Facebook from my daily routine I added at least 1–4 hours each day to do something else.”

Everyone seems to have different reasons to leave Facebook. But they all come together in the end: Have more time for important things. Don’t get hold back by optimized fake updates from others. And try to do new things in life while rejecting old habits. Many people tend to dramatize their split with Facebook, just to crawl back a couple of months later. Like I did once.

I really don’t want to use Facebook anymore. But I need its core function to be able to update the AMY&PINK Facebook page. Even if I hate Facebook as a personal network now, we just can’t do it without getting the views and visitors from the page. Facebook may become obsolete as a social network itself, but it’s still important as a content portal. That’s a sad fact. But my semi-goodbye may be a first step in the right direction. I don’t want to make a big deal out it. Because it really isn’t. It’s just one small half-ass decision.

So instead of deleting my account for good and throwing everything related to it into a digital garbage can, I completely cleared it from all of my photos, status updates, and even friends. It’s now a dead, faceless body, unfindable in the huge world of Facebook. When once there was life, now there is silence. Or something like that. Whatever. I’m a little bit freer than before. And that’s cool.

My old and new personal home besides AMY&PINK will be Twitter, even if I mostly use it only to shout at companies and supermodels. Goodbye, Facebook. I’d love to tell you we’re done. But you’re too busy trying to convince me that refugees can boost economies, animals are suffering in East-European countries and detoxification with vegetables, fruits and juices is the next big thing.

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